Anyone can change. We discovered years ago that if we want something different, we have to be willing to do it.
We may not have been the traditional "black sheep" but we both always thought & acted a bit different. So maybe it wasn't a big leap to change our ways of thinking & acting. And yet... the power of the pack is nothing to scoff at. We each supressed some of our non-conforming ways under the pressure of family & peers.
Over time, we began to honor our differences more often - and the new directions of thought we were discovering. New directions of thought began to drive new actions and new actions began to drive new directions of thought.
Our current changes revolve around downsizing our life. It has been exciting & frustrating & terrifying. We make strides forward & then stumble back. An entire room in our house was empty at the beginning of the summer. And a few weeks ago, it ended up full of furniture again. So, we have learned & we move forward again.
Some changes that we have made met with disapproval, some have met with strange looks, some with resounding applause. That isn't important. Let me repeat. That. Isn't. Important. Never change for other people.
Anyone can change. You just have to want it.